Asking “How am I doing?” is a useless question.
“How do you think I’m doing?” you ask your manager. They reply, “I think you’re doing ok.” Now, I ask you. How is that feedback helpful? How many times do you miss opportunities to improve your performance, help position yourself as a leader, and demonstrate your...
They call you a b*t*ch behind your back.
When Hillary Clinton was Secretary of State, her popularity was at an all time high of 65%. The American public approved of her accomplishments and respected her work ethic. That popularity took a nose dive to 44 percent, however, when she decided to run for...
I know you hate office politics, but avoiding it could cost you your career.
It’s a familiar scenario. I get a phone call from a woman seeking advice because she’s tired of being overlooked and passed over for promotions. She feels stuck and powerless. Since I started my coaching practice in 2007, I’ve heard countless stories of frustration...
Want to get ahead at work? Find a male ally!
Women in the workplace continue to fight the systemic bias that supports an unlevel playing field. Women, especially those in male dominated work environments, struggle for equal representation in leadership, promotions, sponsorship, as well as access to the power...
Are you stuck in a cage of your own making?
My grandson Jakey calls for his mama early in the morning to take him to the potty. Three years old, he recently graduated from his crib to a ‘big boy’ bed. As a baby, the sides of the crib kept him safely in place with his wobby and small assortment of favored...
What on earth are we teaching girls? How a trip to the toy store motivated one woman to challenge the toy industry, the patriarchy, and societal norms
When my children were young, I remember trying to do my best to buy gender neutral toys. My daughter loved playing with stuffed animals more than dolls, and she and her brother, just two years her junior, played for hours with their ‘stuffies’. But she still loved...
No, I’m not getting the coffee
The dark paneled walls, the long mahogany conference table lined with sturdy leather chairs screamed testosterone. And as the partners of the prominent New York venture capital firm slowly streamed into the room, it was obvious that this office was a testament to...
9 ways you give your power away without even knowing it
Rising to the top is not easy for even the most talented women. It takes savvy, grit, and persistence. It requires the belief in one’s future and the potential to reach goals. But beyond the obvious challenges that women encounter every day, more subtle yet...
No one wants to hear your elevator pitch
f you’re like most people, self-promotion does not come easily. Research on this topic indicates that women are especially hesitant to advocate for themselves. Years of being told to take a back seat and wait to be noticed, we often fail miserably at advocating for...