I’m sitting in the waiting room at my gynecologist’s office for my annual visit. I was told to arrive 15 minutes before my appointment. I’m always prompt and compliant so I arrived early. I checked in at the front desk and was told the doctor is running 30 minutes late. OK, that’s nothing new. Every time I come here, the doctor is late. As I took my seat, the woman next to me shared that she’s already been waiting 50 minutes. Well, I’m prepared this time. I brought my laptop so I don’t have to stare into space for an hour or run down the battery of my phone. You know, they’ve removed all the magazines since Covid. What do they expect you to do for hours? 

Well, it gives me a chance to write my thoughts about the end of 2021. Another unique and challenging year in many respects. Always optimistic, I thought we would see the end of this pandemic by now. I’m sure many of you shared my sentiments. I eagerly signed up for my vaccine and took full advantage of my 65+ status. Now I’m boostered, still masked, and sensing that we may not see the end of this for a long time. One thing I’ve learned about life is you gotta go with the flow. In this case, there really isn’t much choice anyway. 

As I reflect on 2021, I recognize that it has been gratifying in many ways, personally and professionally. I launched my second book, Not Done Yet! in March. I did research on gendered ageism that proved to be insightful. I wrote some op-eds, bylines and have done many radio and podcast interviews. It’s been a busy year and I’m gratified by the amount of interest in what I believe is a very important topic. I’ve earned the title of expert in gendered ageism. Bringing attention to the implications of this for women 45+ has become my passion. There’s a lot of work yet to be done to change the conversation about older women in the workplace. I’m up for the challenge.

Personally, I am so lucky I get to see my children and grandchildren on a regular basis. If I ever get out of the doctor’s office, I’ll head home to pack for a trip to Cincinnati tomorrow morning to see my daughter and family there after their recent move from LA.

I’m dancing, and zumbaing 2-3 times a week. I run, walk and hop on the peloton on a regular basis. The California climate and sunshine allow me to exercise outside every day. I am blessed to live in such a beautiful place.

So, I guess, what I’m saying is that I’m extremely grateful. I’m healthy and my family and friends are healthy. I’ve learned to adapt to the new zoom world of speaking and coaching. This technology has allowed me to connect with women all over the world and I learn so much with every conversation.

  • What have been your accomplishments this year?
  • What surprised you most?
  • What have you learned about yourself?

Make sure you take the time to celebrate 2021, your achievements and lessons learned. Once you reflect on the past year, you’ll recognize how you’ve grown. Going forward, welcome every new opportunity to grow and stay vibrant.

For me, I’m still sitting here waiting for the doctor. It’s already 30 minutes and I’m hoping I’m next. My stomach is now growling and I’m eager to get home and have some dinner. 

You know, sometimes, when we’re most frustrated, it’s a good exercise to let go of the negative emotions we may be feeling, understand it’s temporary, and be grateful for what we have.

And guess what? They just called me in to see the doctor! 

Happy holidays and happy 2022!